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The Day-1 Audit: the 20 questions that start a comeback

Before you change anything, you need one honest page about where you actually are.

About 15 minutes. Free. No email needed.

Ace of spades, The Quiet Ace: sit in silence for ten minutes before your phone.Ace of hearts, The Call: call one safe person who matters, today.3 of diamonds, Face The Number: open the account you avoid and write the real number.Ace of clubs, Outside Unplugged: twenty minutes outside, no headphones, no phone.

Tap the cards to turn them over.

Every comeback starts the same way, and it is not with a plan. It starts with one honest page about where you actually are. Most men skip it, because writing it down makes it real, and there is a version of your life you have been telling people that is easier to live with than the truth.

You cannot fix a position you have not read. So before you change anything, sit down and answer these. Twenty questions, five for each suit. No one else reads them. That is the point.

Your answers stay on this phone. Write straight onto the lines below. Nothing is sent anywhere, and you can clear it all at the end.

What to do with the answers

Nothing, today. Do not build a plan off the back of twenty uncomfortable sentences written in one sitting. Read them again tomorrow, when the feeling has gone out of them, and you will find that two or three matter far more than the rest.

Those two or three are your reset. Mark them with This one matters. Everything else is noise you can come back to in a month.

You cannot choose every hand. You can choose the next move.

Your reset

Nothing marked yet. Come back tomorrow, read your answers, and mark the two or three that matter.

One warning. If answering these put you somewhere dark rather than somewhere clear, close the page. A page is the wrong tool for that. Talk to someone now: Lifeline 13 11 14, MensLine Australia 1300 78 99 78, Beyond Blue 1300 22 4636, or 000 in an emergency.

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Seven days, twenty-three pages, one move a day. Free, sent straight away, then one habit card every Sunday.

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